Unofficial bridesmaid Speech
Stephanie and I went to school together in Cedar, and were in the same classes all 4 years of our time there.
I distinctively remember the first time I saw Stephanie. Those of us in the room who remember Stephanie on the cusp of womanhood would tell you, Stephanie was (and still is) very pretty. She looked like one of those really life-like porcelain dolls, in the cedar uniform. I was both intimidated and fascinated. That was, until I got to know her better. In those days (I love how we are now old enough to say “in those days”) there was this social platform for girls from a girls school to talk to boys. It was called mIRC. As I got to know her better, I realised she very aptly named herself. She was f/13 nicknamed siao Za bor.
Over the 16 years, Stephanie has been a very big part of my life. She has counselled me when I found myself at crossroads, she has comforted me when I was sad, she has been by my side through the torrents of teenage angst and break ups, celebrated milestones and achievements with me. Steph is always honest; and amongst the list of brutally honest things she has told me include “no. That dress makes you look fat” “stop talking, you talk too much” and “are you blind? that boy looks like a duck”.
Tonight is not about me. It’s about my friend Steph, and her new husband Sam.
They were classmates in JC and for the longest time, i was teasing Steph about this boy from catholic high who would take the bus home with her. She kept denying they were in a BGR. (Boy, the lingo we used!) She kept calling him a geek, and how there was nothing going on. This went on for months! Then suddenly, Over dinner, I was teasing Stephanie as usual about Sam, who was coming to meet her after dinner, and she suddenly blurted out. “Oh ya. Sam asked me to be his girlfriend.” So here I am getting excited, and thinking oh boy, oh boy, oh boy!! And then, she says “two weeks ago. I just wasn’t ready to talk about it yet”. Those of us who know Stephanie, knows she is the queen of the anti climax. The same way she tells us about this proposal. Steph tells us with a mouthful of sushi, totally nonchalant, “oh! Sam proposed.” “two weeks ago. I just wasn’t ready to talk about it yet”
We started asking questions about the ring (it was his grandmother’s), where he proposed (KL), what she wore (clothes la!!), how many years have they been dating (almost 12!) what dress she wanted (at this point, ladies and gentlemen, please let me add, doesn’t Sam’s blushing bride look spectacular?
Sam, Thank you, for all the patience, advice, care and compromises you have made for Stephanie. I know, as well as you do, Stephanie is not the easiest of all people to be with. But now, you hold in your hands, one of the most loving, loyal and faithful persons I know.
Here we stand, bearing witness to this gorgeous couple that God has brought together, in his perfect timing.
Photo credits: Miranda Zhang, Rachael Lim, Yew Jingxi