(photocredits: kenneth koh photography)
44 days, 11 hours, 24 minutes, 26 seconds
until Saturday, 4 August 2012 (Singapore time)
so denn and i are still doing okay, and oddly enough, we both feel pretty far removed from the wedding stress. we’re both pretty laid back i guess, and a large part of it is really that i refuse (Repeat: Refuse) to sweat the small stuff. everything is going well. so we’re a little late with the cards… pish posh, i told denn, its fine la, as long as people who matter already know. we totally forgot about dieting and have put back on all our weight-loss over the past two months. haiyaa, nevermind laa. we’re real people, not sticks.
we’re unable to fit all our friends and family at the wedding dinner. it’s fine la, we’re throwing a party of our own, which would solve the problem. we might not be able to hold so many people in the church. it’s fine. we’d find a way. that will be the least of the concerns, its only a good thing with an overflowing church.
denn and i have gone through nearly 3 months of pre-marriage counselling, one last session to go. i’d strongly recommend it. it is perhaps more poignant now, because dennis has just been baptised, and it is really our first Bible study together as a couple, and what better way to get the picture of marriage, than from the one who created it.
and you know, a few friends have asked, so will you say “submit” in your wedding vows? isn’t it archaic? isn’t it misogynistic? well i guess, my reply is this. dont forget the next line. in its totality, it calls us to “submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”. God doesn’t call for blind obedience to husband, and he has structured it such that it is certainly do-able. what is there to not submit if he is a God-fearing, God-loving man? by far ladies, i think his instruction to “praise and honour”, is far harder than to ours. especially when we’re raging on those lady hormones.
i’m not worried about the wedding, because i’m secured in the knowledge that i’m marrying the right person. i’m not stressing over the small things because i am okay not having a perfect wedding, as long as i have the ever-after. denn is my closest friend, above all.